You see,

Sometimes a person thinks he’s doing the ‘right thing’ and keeps going. A glint of doubt shows occasionally but that man swipes it away, continuing on his path. As he gains experience in the journey, he begins to see more clearly this strange glint. It becomes bigger a bigger until he is able to recognize it.

His gut feeling, which he suppressed, seemed right on the spot. Dead right.

When most guru’s and other dating authorities put making money before helping others, you got a non genuine product. Usually hefty priced. With questionable value and even more questionable results.

I don’t like that. It’s against my personal virtues. More about this in …well… the about section.

In short – I’m not motivated anymore to keep up this. Focusing my worth in other areas will bring far more alignment to my goals.

I’ve made some changes to previous posts to reflect this new mindset. Anyway, the whole idea is now very far away from the perfect meaning. And this will be the last blog posts here.

p.s. actually you can find good information on dating advice. But you’ll have to search.

Hello mates,

As some of you have probably noticed the blog is having some updates recently. I managed to crash if two times, made it ugly for a while, yet it’s still alive and kicking. ( Wes, man, we’re not blind, duh?)

The change won’t be just visual eye candy, optimization or similar superficial. There is something that’s been bugging me since I started blogging here and it’s finally clear to me. The only thing I’ll say is that it will make my work more aligned with myself and my principles, thus more quality and honest.

And keep eating healthy and getting enough sleep. Keep the immune system strong. Winter viruses are on rampage again. The buggers.

Hello friends,

Today’s post will be a guest article about some interesting dating statistics about falling in love on first sight. The observation are made by a UK dating site called Smooch, so if you are in this area, you should check it out. It’s free!

The saying ‘love at first sight’ seems to be more of an urban legend than actual reality, according to a new survey by smooch.

The free dating site asked over 10,000 of its members if they had ever been in love and the findings revealed that only 21% of those surveyed fell in love instantly when they met.

The study found that the most popular love appeared overtime with 40% of respondents admitting that it blossomed gradually. By initially dating online is efficient and free so there is no harm in sending emails back and forth given the fact that dating in person is also free, it doesn’t make a difference (of course, we’re putting drinks and meals out of the equation).

Further results showed that 26% of daters have been in love more than once and that some fell in love at first sight and others it flourished. A minute 13% confessed that they had never even been in love.

Dating online has several benefits because it is less intimidating and more comfortable. It is far easier to find the perfect partner online for the reason that characteristics and qualities can be filtered. Rather than wasting time over a dinner realising that you both have nothing in common, or do not have the same life ethics, ask these questions on a dating site and save yourself the stress and bother.

Brits communicate much more often via technology as it is instant and simple. It is straightforward and effortless to send an email or free chat during the office dinner break than have a phone call or meet in person. Comb through the thousands of people dating online and fall in love in due course over cyberspace.

If you are interested in online dating and sometime struggle with your messages and emails, or you have very low amount of girls writing back, you can check the Push Button Dating course by Race dePriest from the Social Man. I have to say the guy certainly knows what he’s doing and so far his methods work surprisingly well.

You see, a lot of guys aren’t that good with their ability to attract women. And those guys aren’t very happy by this. Some of those very same guys, go and learn pick-up, in order to be able to attract women. However, there is something not many talk about. A lot of those guys, after already have learned to attract women, aren’t very happy overall. Which was their desire on the first place!

A friend of mine had recently troubles with a girl, which he felt for. This got me thinking on something worth sharing.

The default pick-up studies, advice to keep yourself as you are the prize. To treat the girl as your little bratty sister, tease the heck out of her, push and pull tactics, make her jealous, giving her the gift of missing you, acting if you don’t care (because you have tons of other options) and so on. You see the trend here?

Yet, giving the nature of majority of us, humans, this will work, but ONLY if we don’t like the girl that much. If we like the girl, it will make no sense to do all the above mentioned pick-up tactics, because it won’t even feel natural. Many of you probably learned that the hard way. If we meet a girl we really like a lot and we try to do the ‘pick-up routines’, it’s like doing in on purpose. Requires a lot of effort and it’s … it’s fake. At the end, even if we attract the girl, it’s by the fake persona.

Who is she really attracted to? Our genuine selves or that fake pick-up modification of us?

Who do we really want her to be attracted to? Knowing it is you, yourself, or that little dread feeling it wasn’t you at all.

I can bet there isn’t a single man out there, that felt for a woman and didn’t struggle trying to keep the default pick-up decks. The worst part? He did keep up the pick-up, he struggled doing it so and at the very end, he messed up bad, losing the girl. He kept attracting girls he doesn’t like the same way, he liked her.

Of course, I’m not talking about giving the mushy-washy wussy either. There is a masculine way to care about someone, without the need of “negging them” or “not calling them for 6 days”. That is topic for another post.

Next time something like this happens, keep this knowledge in mind. Just admit to yourself you care about that particular person and it will eliminate a lot of that struggling, between being that uber cool seducer and your genuine self.

At the end, you either do care about someone, or you don’t. You can care and act like you don’t, but it will be only an act.

Have you had similar stories? Please, feel free to share!

In this post we will continue with the mini questions I asked some of the girls I know – “What do Girls find Irritating in Guys?”

Note – you can read the previous post on this topic here

• Lack of sense of humor – Even the bad dating advice have to agree with this one – sense of humor is always welcome! No matter where or when sense of humor is appreciated by all women! Ok, there are some places and times you shouldn’t really hit it with jokes and teases like funerals and airport security checks.

However – on the humor side – be careful not to sound too offensive which might be takes as rude. Always go lighthearted and you’ll make no mistake. I know David D says do it with serious face. However before you get good as David D be careful. Not to mention if you even consider his style.

• Fake Confidence - No one likes fake people, except other fake people. Faking confidence is usually transparent to other people and especially visible to women. Guys who act (underline act) super confident are usually the ones classy women laugh at.

• Nice guys - in the terms of pleasing every action of the woman even when she is clearly abusing them. Nothing bad being nice, however here we’re talking about the typical – “I give all my power to you although you don’t give me a dime of respect” type. Nice guys in that term freak women out (except the ones that abuse nice guys).

• Showing off with more than he can handle/have – this goes with the Fake confidence. Getting way over themselves is tactic for the show offs. A guy does that to impress his social circle and of course women. Impressing people with something like that rarely works (unless you’re with the bottom feeders which I hope you aren’t). Trying to impress women with your possessions and deeds by just stating them is not impressive. Not to mention if they are fake. I know sometimes people get the urge to say or do something over their ability. If you detect something as this happening in you – thing again before doing it. Might save you embarrassment.

• Boring, non talkative – I have to say this is personal preference. Some women prefer the strong and silent type. Other women prefer a guy who can talk his way out of situations, including such created by her. However – being boring and being talkative are different things. You may speak the heck out of everything and still be exciting as river stone … in the river. Most easy way to not being boring is … to be funny (I know – I’m pure genius).

• Seeking approval by compliments – You know those guys – they see pretty woman and they unleash compliments as no tomorrow! Usually women tend to filter those compliments if they are real or not. Most of the time they are just fodder that hopes to get in their pants. And does not succeeds. However if the girl is still inexperienced (means young, never had a serious boyfriend, lacks self confidence, have no direction in life) and the guy is  semi smooth – such compliments actually work. My advice is against that since it’s rather fake and non sincere. Not to mention the girl will feel sad and disappointed by men afterwards. Don’t contribute to another girl stating all men are the same. Thank you!

And with this we end the mini analysis. Although the answers are rather chaotic for my liking you can see that there is pattern in all of them. And most of them do actually match with many dating advice out there. My advice is not to listen to what women say all of the time in terms of such advice but use it as indicator that might give a clue.

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I am happy to present you the Female Signs of Attraction report!

It’s finally ready and you can get it for Free.

This brings up memories.

Several years ago I remember I had a crush on a girl and had no idea if she was attracted to me. Actually I thought that if she likes me, she must do the same things I do when I like someone.

Well…

…that was wrong.

You see, people are different and this difference is even bigger between men and women. We all show it differently if we like someone (considering our shyness doesn’t get in the way).

Few years later after keen observations and reading of tons books and articles about body language and psychology I can say things have a pattern. Especially women have a pattern of showing their interest in someone.

And you know the fun part?

They do it 90%  intentionally (I just made up that number ) . That means they want us to see they are attracted to us. But hold your horses, women (most of them) are very subtle creatures. When they give you such female signs of attraction they don’t mean: “Come my handsome man, take me and marry me at once!”

They mean: “I am perhaps finding something interesting about you at this moment. But If you mess up I will most likely cut you right off”.

Took me a lot of time to understand this (even after reading it few times from different advices). In scientific terms:

The female signs of attraction are body language signals that women send to guys in order to subtly show their interest in them.

They also expect us to see those signals. They are obvious for other women and invisible for 90% of the men (again I made it up )

The free report explains those signs so you can learn to recognize them. It’s short 7 page .pdf file – exactly to the point. No fluff.

To download it signs in the form below or right (all lead to the same report). If you like, you can read the whole mini-page for the report here.

When you begin understanding those female signs of attraction a whole new mini world opens. You’ll begin see a lot women giving out those signals, were it to you or some other guy around. And after short practice they will be obvious to you as well!

While browsing my pc I found a file I had forgotten about. It contained short logs of interviews I made with some of my female friends like year ago. The topic was what’s the most irritating quality in guy in girl’s eyes.

Keep in mind this isn’t research in any scientific way. Just me satisfying my curiosity in something I heard from an interview by Nick Sparks (the one from The Social Man).

With no more fluff we start with the things girls find most irritating in guys.

• Lack of Chivalry. In this modern day and age my observation is Chivalry is really odd and missing. I’ve seen like …  two guys for the last few years that were genuine cavaliers. Most others were just “trying too hard” to look like ones. And were failing of course since the minute they weren’t around the girls of interest they transformed back to what they were naturally. As David D says – if you want to attract fake women, be a fake man.

Keep in mind here we’re talking about very light chivalry manners. Not the whole package by the old movies and books.

While thinking about it – there is something that makes a woman feeling more feminine in the hands of chivalrous man indeed. Never underestimate that!

Something to add before getting in the next one – the girl that actually complained about men not being cavaliers had behavior that didn’t match what she was looking for. She was kind of female jerk in a way. Definitely turn on for men, just not the chivalrous type. Last time I checked women didn’t actually knew very well what they wanted (no offense meant).

• Making elephant from the ant. Ok, that is directly translated from my old language. It’s an old saying. Basically it translates ego problems. A man who sees a little issue and make a big deal of it. This to me looks like general issue, not gender specific. Deeply rooted with low self-esteem, bad temper and a lot, lot more factors. It’s rather broad to dig more into it. No one likes that kind of people.
• Not being sincere. Well, this is also non-gender specific. Actually women are very natural at sensing when the man is hiding the truth. Not being sincere usually fails in the long run, it’s taxing for the mind and won’t allow you to connect with the person in genuine way. Honest people will always have easy time connecting to others and gaining their trust. It’s an observation.
• Not considering her opinion. This is biggie.

Actually not taking in mind her opinion can mean the guy is not respecting the girl and doesn’t trust her judgment. Lack of respect usually leads to mutual lack of respect which results in very unhappy relationship.

You know David D and some other guru’s advice to act like she’s your little brat but there’s more to it. Do it in a funny, teasing way, not in dishonorable “woman are lesser than men” way. Doing it for real will have a whole different vibe to it. And unless you want end with the issue bags, tray to stay respectful.

• Being emotionally boring. While thinking about this only one thing comes into my mind.

Being average.

This is so general it’s just painful. Usually more than half of the dating advice out there is based not to be emotionally boring. People and women as well are attached to positive emotions. Being associated with the source of positive emotions is king! People will be happy around you and look to invite you for parties and social events.

To be honest I can’t give specific advices here. You can take any dating advice or do anything interesting and get benefit out of it. This holds true from most angles – being emotionally boring is not attractive.

Think of this saying – “If you’re being bored the chances are you’re are boring yourself”. Holds some truth.

I will stop here with today’s post since it’s getting too long. There are several more points I’ve made from the mini interviews and will post them in the near future. Thank you for reading and please share your experience with us!

Typically when a man is interested in a woman it’s quite obvious. He will either talk to her or try make some sort of contact (except when he’s shy). If a man is not interested in a woman he will not make any effort to make contact or start a conversation.

Very simple.

Women, on the other hand, are a indirect creatures. They will very rarely show their interest in a direct way. Most of the time they will give out signals with their behavior and body language. Those are the female signs of attraction.

There are few reasons for this happening. The most major one is – women are very sensitive to society’s view upon them. And the society usually takes a sexually aggressive woman for not very appropriate, thus it labels them as sluts. Women don’t want to be labeled as sluts.

Women are sensitive to societies more than men for a reason. For many years (tens of thousands) women gained protection by fitting in the group. This left some genetic imprint on today’s women too. As you might have observed – women generally are more prone to wonder what others think of them.

Let me give you an example between the two of us men and women:

• A man interested in a girl from his work for example will most likely start some sort of conversation with the lady. If’s he’s confident enough he will even blast some jokes and tease her a little. Generally he will most likely try to engage her in some activity where both of them will be.
• A woman for example, interested in a guy might just position herself near him for some reason (to fax something, use the nearest piece of machinery). Most likely if there are no other women around, she will flash few signals of attraction with the hope he will see them and take the initiative. She may also ask him some very indirect questions or mention something again hopping he will understand what she’s trying to hint and take the initiative.

As this is the typical behavior between both genders, keep in mind not all people will do the same thing. There are some very direct women who will openly show their interest in you and get your contacts. As well there are men who will do very indirect hints (maybe not so as women but still – for men).

Note: Keep in mind you can be very direct and appear as wussy and at the same time be quite subtle and appear very masculine. This however is topic for another post.

Sometimes we can misread those signs as our desire to be liked by particular lady might cloud our judgment. As this stands true, there are ways to learn the most common used female signs of attraction.

Here are two common situations and what women might do in them:

The setting of a bar or club – typically women interested in you will move close to you or position themselves in your direct line of view. Some more bold ones can even “accidentally” bump in you. If you start a little conversation a girl attracted in you will probably face your body with hers. If things go well and she is comfortable around you she might even touch you at some funny moment or other emotional peak.

In the bus you sit next to a girl. She looks at you with the corner of her eye for a brief moment. Then she fixes her hair and begin swaying one of her legs lightly. You give her a quick glance and after you move your eyes elsewhere she will fix her hair again. Most likely she will not start the conversation and wait you to do it. Typically people in buses stay silent because of the invasion in personal space by strangers.

I’m finishing a quick report on “The female signs of attraction” which will put as free download for every visitor of my site (and increasing my list as well). The guys already in my list will receive this by e-mail.

Edit: The report is ready and waiting! Download it here.

A lot of people get into the whole pick up and seduction field for one reason or another. Certain people begin searching what will give them edge over particular woman. Other are generally not satisfied with how women treat them. Third may have some sticking points in their game and so on.

Time passes and here we are with our guys learning new skills, trying to get over what was previously unknown. Those people follow their set of rules – very strict or loose (depending on the system they learn) and they gain rewards by it. Sometimes it goes very well, sometimes very slow. Nothing new under the sun.

Then they see something that shakes their foundations. A guy that is doing completely opposite of what they learned, they follow and live by. And yet he succeeds. Sometimes even better than they have. And it’s damn that this person didn’t put ANY effort, even close, to what those guys did.

This puts the big question – Why this happens? How it can be? Is this what they call ‘a natural’? He don’t seem any special, nor he does puts any specifics into action. He is unknown, thus any social proof factor is not relevant. Does he do anything different?

Yes, he actually does, even without probably realizing it.

Unfortunately those guys don’t look where he got the most advantage. His body language.

He is relaxed, easy, in peace. When he moves – his body is in complete flow. No jerky movements.

“Ok man, we all know about this confident body language thing.” We all know but it’s unconscious thing. The moment you stop thinking about it – you go back into your default mode. And your default mode may hold mental images that bring tension to your body. You may have injury or distortion from lack of exercise or bad posture. This builds up and gives specific vibe to your body, vibe that is non attractive to women.

They, the women, pick it on subconscious level. Most of them probably don’t realize it, but what they realize for sure those certain sexual feelings towards particular man on the spot on the moment they see him. This body language tells a lot of things on an instant subconsciously – confidence, relaxation, sexual appeal, healthy offspring and so on.

Ok then, if we revert back to our default body posture, how can we override this?

A guy named Rob Brinded developed a system which retrains your body to work as it’s intended to do so by nature – as one. This gives that natural movement and feeling. Rob gives specific set of exercises that bring your body back in the natural form it’s designed to work in.

I’m coming from martial art background (and still am) and we do all kinds of trainings that should increase our efficiency. In martial arts one have to very, very relaxed and flexible and only apply force when it’s needed, no more. When I tried some of the exercises Rob talks about – I felt like I wasn’t doing any stretching at all – he just brings a whole new dimension on that! After few minutes of exercises you can feel your body, move more loosely and relaxed, and it feels good!

This have the potential to be the missing link between the naturals and the guys that try to learn this thing. When I look back in my experience, there was always guys who didn’t flirt very well, didn’t have that looks or body, didn’t knew any ‘attraction advice’ and yet women found them attractive over everyone else.

So go and checkout Rob’s site “Code of the Natural” – you’ll see his free videos and try out some nice exercises. Actually he’s just finished new program called “Turn Her On” that focuses on area on your body (your hips) which sends specifically sexual subconscious signals to the women. He is having limited time promotion right now for $47 (something like 50% discount). On the site has video that explains what it’s about.

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