Sometimes when you browse and look around you stumble upon some very cool things. This is what happened when I was reading a dating blog recently. It’s Rob Judge’s blog post that shares his ten favorite texts that a man can send to a girl. While it’s worth to check out the his entire post of the 10 messages, I’ve selected three of which hit my sweet spot.

The Aristocrat message:

“In the penthouse, listening to Mozart, sipping aged scotch, thinking of you”

It’s not Rob’s text either (credit to still unknown who). It allows you to be romantic yet being awesome at the same time. Very good messages as both “ends” balance themselves. Say two things at once without appearing too much of either. Honestly this text is too cool to stay only on few blogs.

Scrolling Nostalgia:

“Wow Allie C just scrolling thru my phone and realized it’s tragic we never met up. What are you doing later?”

Resurrect old hookups that didn’t get anywhere, re-engage flakes and of course, check out girls numbers which you never met. As Rob said – if you send it there is nothing to lose and everything to gain.

If by X you mean Y then Yes:

“If by pumpkin you mean ravaging sex demon then yes”

Very swift way to avoid and turn a conversation that goes negative path back in the cool. If they throw something in your address that you don’t like, hold your breath and show them you’re bigger than this. It hold the topic on track and shows you got a hold over your ego.

You can modify those messages however you wish to suit your needs. You can also go and check the rest of them on Rob’s blog. Keep in mind when I was browsing there some pop-ups appeared. Since noted, there is nothing you can’t handle, I’m sure.

If you find the topic of texting interesting, be sure to check out the course B4UTXTHER which is especially designed to train your flirting skills via text messages. You can see a free sample of the course in the link.

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Fearless, by The Social Man is out!

It’s an online video course, where Nick Sparks and other guys from the Social Man (as well as guests) are giving you the vital you need to get in action. The program main focus is the interactions between you and the girl, especially the first minutes. Or basically – how to become Fearless with women.

No rehearsed materials, no ready lines, no routines. Just you in your most awesome light.

The main “symptom” a lot of guys have, is getting stuck around very hot women. Those guys are fine with other people and girls they don’t have interested in, but when a very hot girls is on the line, things get nasty.

So…

If you hold yourself back around 9′s and 10′s but you’re otherwise awesome, you owe yourself to check this program.

The idea is to avoid informational overload, which gets guys in their heads and puts them in paralysis analysis mode. Nothing good comes out of that in a moment like this.

And in a moment like this, you have to be your best, when it matters the most. This is what Fearless is about.

Additional info to consider:

• Check out the Fearless report (pdf) upfront.
• Also Check a video where Nick Sparks shows and explains briefly one of the six pillars of Fearless – the confident eye contact with a girl and what definitely you shouldn’t do.

P.s. I’ll update this post for any news around Fearless that come around the next few days.

Not to mention, they got their usual 365 days money back guarantee. As usual The Social Man are pretty confident abut their course.

From the guest speakers, there is Marni from the Wing Girl Method. I got my reservations about her style, but I’ll leave that to your personal judgement.

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In every dating advice there is strong emphasis on how important is the practice. Indeed, practice and experience, is something that makes or breaks your success in various fields, including the dating field.

I’m hitting this topic, since there is one very important thing in this whole concept of practicing that many do wrong. This is, again, valid in all areas. One can practice a lot and have very little improvement and at the same time, one can practice little and have significant improvement.

Putting aside natural gifs and talents, this is what usually happens. One guy is getting ahead of others, yet they all practice the same amount of time, doing the same things.

How is that possible?

The difference is, being aware of your practice and the specifics you’re trying to master. Are you just talking to people, or are talking to people, focusing your attention of the way you voice sound? Are you just speaking with girls, or you keep your attention of the way her emotions are expressed on her face?

Just practicing can be inefficient way of learning things, except getting general feeling of the basics. Also, trying everything at once, will lead to getting overwhelmed, thus again practicing inefficiently.

Focused practice, on the other hand, will get you very good at one certain aspect of your area. After you get good at that, you can switch your focus into another aspect. The point is doing it step by step, one at a time. After you feel comfortable with it, go to the next step and then add another one.

Examples of different aspects you can focus, can be:

• Your voice – tone of speaking, speed of talking, clarity of speech;
• Your inner feelings – when you get excited or worried, when the feeling goes up, when it goes down;
• Your body – how you move, how you sit, how your body reacts when you are nervous, how your body behaves when you are relaxed;
• Your awareness of the person in front – what changes their mood, how you can read their current emotional state, how does their face and body changes when you switch topics;
• Your content – the questions you ask, the stories you tell, the teases you make, the way you present them.

The list can go on. The point of it is not to be complete, as to give you direction on what you can focus, each time you practice.

Trying everything at once, especially in the start of each endeavor, will most likely result only in frustration. Honestly, I made that mistake far too many times. Also, just practicing for the sake of practice, can be a little relieving, but is very slow process at getting good at something.

Focusing on single thing each time you practice, will certainly make the difference of getting mediocre and getting good, and then, beyond. It can sometimes get tedious, but when you think about it, there will always be a new detail, you can now see, and focus on.

Keep this in mind next time you are practicing, no matter in front of the mirror or in a real life situation.

What’s the last time you had challenge with trying to learn something new?

For most women this is plain obvious, for most men this is a total mystery. The female signs of attraction are something very different from the male signs of attraction, if there is even such thing.

When we men are interested in a woman, most likely, we will glance few times at her. Some men will try get her attention somehow, like being macho type or something else. The most assertive men will probably just go and talk to her.

Women, however, operate in different level. They won’t just plainly show, that they are interested in us. They, for example, will flick their hair, caress some parts of their clothing, give out very subtle looks, position themselves near you and so on…

To women, those signals are obvious. Other women, usually, can spot them very well. We men, on the other hand and most of the time, are completely blind for those subtle female signs of attraction. Usually, men just assume that, if they’re interested in the woman, she must also be interested back. Or reverse – some men, think a woman is not interested in them, because she isn’t approaching them. And at the same time, the same woman, is dying to get approached by the guy.

Fear not friend, the signs of the female attraction can be learned and there are great advantages with that skill.

For example, when you enter a venue, you will be able to quickly filter out which women are interested in you and which didn’t even saw you. This way you will have way more easier time hooking with one of them, not to mention avoiding rejection outright. I mean, when you talk to a girl that is obviously busy with something else, the chances are she’ll try to cut you off. Or her friend nearby.

(Of course that won’t happen if your Brad Pit or George Clooney. However if you are one of them and reading this blog, something very bad happened to the world).

Also, another advantage of knowing the female sings of attraction is, that you’ll able to “read” any social dynamics, invisible to other men, and even sometimes women. You will see who is into who and who can’t wait to get away from who. You’ll be like an expert of those things.

Not to mention, you will be able to see, how well your interaction is going, after you’re already talking to the girl. You’ll be able to avoid embarrassing moment when you make a move and she’s not even interested anymore.

Not knowing those signals, however, can really put you into wasted efforts. Trying to hook up with women, that aren’t interested in you in the first place. I don’t know about you, but this drops my motivation a lot. You also won’t be able to see which woman is interested in you. Might be that cute girl next door, who you always had a crush on, but never expected she will have on you.

So, there is no excuse for this. As a man you will make your life easier when you know the signals of female attraction. I’ve made a quick 7-page Free Report that will show you how to read those signals. You can download it and read it in a few minutes and after few more you’ll know what other men probably never will.

Mates from Top Dating Sites dot com made a post about texting and asked me to give a adept eye on their advice.

As they probably do it for the backlinks juice, I will gladly give my perspective. There are some mistakes you definetely want to avoid.

First – before we continue, go here http://www.topdatingsites.com/blog/2011/10-great-ways-to-text-your-way-into-a-date/ and read their post. I will refer to it most of the time here!

Ready? No ? Go back an read it.

Ready? Yes? Nice You may pass:

One thing stands out in the examples from that site and that is – neediness. If this is the beginning of the interaction with a girl, especially if she’s a “girl in demand” the chances are you will sound desperate with such messages. Especially number 2. “I’m holding my breath until you text back”. Seriously? For real? Ok of course you’re not holding the breath for real (I really hope so. Please breathe!). This sounds desperate. Don’t send this! Really! Unless there is heavy attraction between you two and you both are into each other. Then it’s not much of a difference what you’ll text.

This might sound a bit too direct comment for some. Let me elaborate – a person that is having things going on with his life won’t just stand there and watch his phone for incoming text messages. That person will do what he does and from time to time will check his phone. If he is doing something important and he receives a message, he will check it later when he finishes what he is doing. Waiting with his breath on pause sends the wrong idea.

To some this might sound a little romantic. While I admit you have to have some guts to send messages like that, it rarely works. The girl have to be hopeless romantic and consider you dating material in the first place for this to have chances to work.

Which brings me to mistake number 2 – sounding Cheesy.

Cheesy can work very well and at the same time be your demise. If you’re being cheesy in your messages this will be turn off most of the time, especially when she is someone you just met. Unless you make it deliberately cheesy. Like you realize how cheesy that text will sound and you send it with joking intentions (include smiley, winking faces). It sounds a bit dorky then and she knows you’re not being serious with it. This won’t pressure her.

Another mistake (number 3) I see is message #6 – getting ahead of yourself. If this message is coming after some flirtatious exchange that is hinting a meeting – well done. However shooting an address like that will 95% of the cases flake. Unless you’re both already dating and feel pretty comfortable with each other. In this case – it probably won’t matter anyway. Again don’t start directly with that. Lead to it.

In general terms the message examples from that site might work (fat chance) … on someone desperate as the messages themselves. This however might not be the girl of your dreams, especially if she become clingy to you way too easy. However if you try to hook with “a girl in demand” with such mushy-washy style – I bet it won’t work. Unless you’re Brad Pit and have a Ferrari (and she somehow know it).

And please avoid message #3 altogether as it might deliver the wrong idea. Not come from her mouth? What’s that, when she’s with the guy in person what she says does not come from her heart? Or is it her voice? This thing can mess her up in a bad way.

While I’m not master of text game I can recognize mistakes when I spot them. I won’t teach you how to become good. However if you want to become very, very good (and even more) you can check out the program of my teacher – Race DePriest. It’s called B4UTXTHER. The program includes:

• mindsests you need to apply when texting girls;
• the order you must approach girls with your texts. You can lead to sexual encounters with only using texts. If you know how;
• how to bring her back in if she’s acting cold to you and what if she stops responding (resurrect interactions).

Actually you can read free report and check out some of the examples of Race themselves – B4UTXTHER report (no opt-in required). Just check out few of Race’s examples and the situation where he applies them to see the genius of his work. Check and test! They work as charm!

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I am happy to present you the Female Signs of Attraction report!

It’s finally ready and you can get it for Free.

This brings up memories.

Several years ago I remember I had a crush on a girl and had no idea if she was attracted to me. Actually I thought that if she likes me, she must do the same things I do when I like someone.

Well…

…that was wrong.

You see, people are different and this difference is even bigger between men and women. We all show it differently if we like someone (considering our shyness doesn’t get in the way).

Few years later after keen observations and reading of tons books and articles about body language and psychology I can say things have a pattern. Especially women have a pattern of showing their interest in someone.

And you know the fun part?

They do it 90%  intentionally (I just made up that number ) . That means they want us to see they are attracted to us. But hold your horses, women (most of them) are very subtle creatures. When they give you such female signs of attraction they don’t mean: “Come my handsome man, take me and marry me at once!”

They mean: “I am perhaps finding something interesting about you at this moment. But If you mess up I will most likely cut you right off”.

Took me a lot of time to understand this (even after reading it few times from different advices). In scientific terms:

The female signs of attraction are body language signals that women send to guys in order to subtly show their interest in them.

They also expect us to see those signals. They are obvious for other women and invisible for 90% of the men (again I made it up )

The free report explains those signs so you can learn to recognize them. It’s short 7 page .pdf file – exactly to the point. No fluff.

To download it signs in the form below or right (all lead to the same report). If you like, you can read the whole mini-page for the report here.

When you begin understanding those female signs of attraction a whole new mini world opens. You’ll begin see a lot women giving out those signals, were it to you or some other guy around. And after short practice they will be obvious to you as well!

Hello mate,

Today we’ll discuss the routines many pick-up artists use. You’ve probably heard of it, you may even use some in your game.

Let’s start from the description of this in the pick-up community.

What is this thing called routine? It’s ready material, typically some sort of line, question and similar thing that when done right, conveys certain qualities in the person that makes it, starts a conversation in a desired way, gives specific hints to a woman and etc. Things of this kind.

One typical example of routine is the old question which a person can use to approach people – “Who lies more, men or women?”, with it’s sequence (almost no matter what they say) “Oh? Because a friend of mine thinks that men lie more but for more little things and women lie …” You get the idea. The conversation goes on.

Or – the cube game which is simple pseudo psychology test which uses symbolic meanings  (i.e. subconscious mind) to “profile the girl”. You ask her to imagine certain things and then she gives you details about these things. Using the details she is giving, you magically reads her traits. It’s pretty fun and fairly inaccurate game in my opinion. I mean most of the conclusions you can give are valid for 90% of the people out there if not even more.

Or this example – assigning roles to the girls in a group “Who is  the wealthiest of you? You? We’re setting the marriage for Monday! But…we need, who is the best cook here? Ok you’ll be our master chef!”.

A lot of gurus don’t like the routines – claim them as fake. I admit, I agree with them – routines may deliver one very strange feeling that gives “fakeness” to the other person. The problem with that is guys tend to learn those almost by heart. And then they shoot them whenever they enter a conversation, like a child told to recite something it leaned the other day. It’s like the person is there, but not there. A slight change in his style might be detected and this slight change isn’t feeling natural to the other person around.

This is one thing. Another is – if it all goes well and the conversation continues what happens when the guy runs out of prepared materials? Most likely drastic change of the dynamics and his style. This leaves very awkward feeling. Showing something and then delivering another different thing.

The word routine itself is something you do repeatedly, as a habit. Washing your teeth every morning is routine. Putting your belt every time you get in the car is routine. That is ok. That is helpful. Saying same stuff when speaking to different people limits your mind. So do this cautiously.

Routines however have one very good purpose – they can override some inner issues the person is having at that moment. They can start conversation while otherwise it might be difficult for that person. They can keep the attention of someone that otherwise might be difficult for that person and so on. Actually the first I started I used ready materials myself. Using such can have benefits. And in some cases it can “save” a conversation that might be going nowhere.

My advice on this is – if you’re going to use ready routines and lines – pick such that you feel natural to you and your style. Don’t go with something you might never say or do (unless you want to stress yourself on purpose). Then try it in front of  the mirror several times. Is it ok for you? Does your style changes much, like a sales person trying to sell you something? If it feels natural – then you can apply it.

And please don’t get hooked up on it. I had a time where I used routines to my friends. I mean I was so caught in this thing. This wasn’t good, especially in my case it wasn’t my style at all.

Actually the best  thing is that if you’re going to use them at all – check out some, and then make some of your own. They will fit you, they’ll be part of you and they will feel natural to you. Believe me, the difference is noticeable.

If you’ve read this far – I got one very, very good honest approach for you. Next time you feel awkward, run out of conversation, or feel something isn’t right – just share it with the other person (don’t get overboard mushy-mushy emo style, not attractive). For example you go to talk to a girl but suddenly as you approach your mind goes  blank and you say: “Hey, I just came to talk to you but… I forgot what was I about to say.” and you smile and then introduce yourself. Like it’s the most natural thing that can happen (and it is since every person feels this way once in a while).

The other person typically will react positively. There might be occasions where she can try to stomp you “Oh, peace off!” and you feel a little disappointed, then say it “Oh, you looked a lot more friendly initially”.

This honest approach gives the following vibes of you:

• you are a person that is pretty comfortable with his feelings. A mature person that knows himself well. You have no problem opening yourself to total strangers;
• you are honest person and honesty is very attractive quality for other mature people. Yes, little pain in the butt girls will find you “weak”. But that’s not the point.

As a “side benefit” you’ll learn also to be comfortable with your emotions (again, not some mushy-washy wussy way). This is tough at the start, especially if you’re more introverted person (like me). But once you manage to get a hold of it – a lot of conversations will feel a lot more light and fluent to you. They’ll feel natural.

You won’t need the ready materials that much (or at all). This inner strength you’ll begin developing will help your progress a lot more. Getting to much used to routines will get you stuck with the progress.

For me – expressing emotions became so much easier this way. A lot less holding of things that I otherwise suppressed in myself. For example I can say no without the fear of offending someone. Before I was too much concerned about offending someone or what he’ll think about me. In short – life became a lot more enjoyable and light.

And for finish let me quote for you David DeAngelo:

If you want a fake woman, them be a fake man. (Edit: David D knows that well, from experience perhaps)

This will be topic to another article. Think about it – a lot of wisdom in that one.

The topic of attraction is rather big. What attracts women?

There are many things, some of which are the same for all female out there and some of which completely different.

However there is one thing universal - a man confident and in control of himself.

This however can be difficult to show by pure content of words. This is inner feeling that vibes out of you. It radiates via your body behavior. And believe me, women are masters of reading this body language. Scientists have proven that women are genetically better in reading the cues your body signals (mostly unconscious). Also consider the fact that women train themselves in their games and activities from very young age. They are far superior in this body language theme than us men.

But fear not my friend, you can learn what they got by talent. And most importantly – you can learn what attracts women so you can implement it in your body language.

You have noticed how different people stances change in different environment right?

A person in new situation with unknown other people around him might stand and move differently than being before his friends in his house for example. While we men might not detect that outright women certainly does.

“But isn’t that deceiving?” – you might a ask. There is always that point of view, which can be said actually for everything you learn (and don’t have by the gene pool) in that life. Body language works both ways – when you take the stance and position that conveys confidence, you actually begin to feel more confident, thus the new thing becomes more natural to you. Like self boosting system. This works also for the negative body language. It reinforces negative feeling and locks on it. So learning this thing will have quite a few benefits, even detecting and breaking out of bad states!

To learn the 3 simple ways you can improve your attraction right now, go and check my article on what attracts women in your body language.

Hi mate,

Today we’re going to discuss a common … let’s not say problem but a situation that  guys have with women. It’s called approach anxiety and basically stops you in your tracks when you’re about to approach a particular attractive girl.

Nasty feeling it is. If you’re reading this the chances are that you already have (or had) such unpleasant feeling. I can write all day about this thing.

Basically the situation comes into this problem. Part of  you wants to stay at your spot and don’t risk anything. No chance of rejection, no chance of embarrassment or anything. The focus is on stay. Another part of you wants to go and talk to the girl, to take that chance and manage the approach. The key here is go.

You can’t stay and go at the same time. This drains you completely out of energy making even more difficult to manage the approach anxiety.

(This concept was shown to me by Ross Jeffries in one of his random videos.)

Then how can we cure this? The funny thing is to actually start doing it and it will cure itself. But isn’t that contradictory? How can I approach when I can’t approach?

There is middle ground. I just wrote an article about this on ezinearticles that you can check out. You’ll see few simple ideas that can help you out. After reading, please leave a comment. I’ll appreciate it!

People are usually unaware of that big aspect – they criticize other people about things that they do as the same habit.

For example someone may tell you he hates people that lie for small things, while ~30 minutes later he might lie about something small completely unaware he just did it.

This is only one example. People tend to do that a lot!

Here the psychology comes with the projection theory, that what people don’t like that in themselves, they project it outside on others (Keep in mind its simplified concept, the whole projection topic is big). This only hides the habit that person criticizes is the very same he possesses. If you are staying and watching this as a third party, unbiased by the situation – you can get very unpleasant feeling of this person.

My advice is to try keep aware when you criticize something that you don’t do the same thing yourself. Some people might not pay attention to this, but usually positive and high quality people will spot it right on and won’t be impressed by it. By general rule people like honesty and this is far from it.

What you can do right now is think of some moments where you remember criticizing something or someone and think of do you possess such habit or trait? If so, maybe you should change your point of view and of course,  try to get rid of that habit. Not a rocket science here.