Comments on: Falling in Love and Observing it

By: Sawyer

Sawyer — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 14:00:47 +0000

Basically it’s the old saying “don’t put all your eggs in one basket”. This is one that only recently I’ve had the luck and will to really understand and put into practice. As you say, it’s a matter of perspective. All the times I’ve done some mistake in the past it was nearly every time due to a bad point of view (or self-talk, belief, call it whatever you want).

Now that I have several “eggs” in my radar if I screw up with one of them it’s not such a big deal so I’m more confident and relaxed. No more mental mastrubation over “The One”, and I can really *see* who I have in front of me (the good and the bad parts) without being too anxious and needy. Big improvement for me.

By: Wes M

Wes M — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 13:54:29 +0000

Funny thing, my solution to this is the same (if you can call it “solution” of course). Going out with other girls. It isn’t necessary to do something else, but just to – let us say – have another perspective. It helps a lot, gets my thoughts back in place.

Maybe there are other more efficient ways to think clear. Who knows…

Thanks for commenting!

By: Sawyer

Sawyer — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 12:52:03 +0000

Yeah, I can feel you brother. I’m basically in the same situation.

Maybe there are multiple reasons (for me), like the desire to express my feelings freely, to love and be loved, and finally the fear to remain alone and never be happy again and shit like that.

Probably it’s even a matter of being more or less “vulnerable”, I think no one can be completely rational and in control all the time.

My point of view is: I take it easy, relax and think about all the fantastic girls around me.